6 Unhelpful Things you Say – Change your words

change your words

 

Arghhhhh - Nooo Don't do it...

I pick up the phone and they do it again and again and again ... "Hello, It's only me ..."

 

I want to shout out "Who the heck is 'only me'?"

What are you doing to yourself? Change your words!

Why would you diminish who you are by saying such a thing?

 

It happens so often.

 

If I know the person well enough I do actually challenge them to change the greeting. I'll tell them how prized they are to me and if I value them that much why can't they do it for themselves? Is that shocking? Maybe, but lets explore briefly the words we use and how they can unknowingly erode our self esteem and confidence.

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Are you up for that?

 

Okay, so how often do you utter these words?

 

1. Might

What an ambivalent, sitting on the fence kind of word that is!
Where's the intention or direction? I might give it a go. It might be okay.
I might as well just forget about it!

Hmm I don't think so!!!

Change your words!

 

2. Won't

If you think it won't happen well, you're probably right. What a defeatist word that assumes you've lost before you even begin.
Turn it on it's head to I'm open to the possibility.

Change your words!

 

3. Usually

This is usual for us. I usually do it this way.
How about giving 'I'm open to another way' a go?

Change your words!

 

4. Impossible

Can't be done!
It's impossible for me to do that.
Shift your thinking to It's not possible  -> it could be possible
-> to I'M POSSIBLE.

Change your words!

 

5. Worried

I'm worried about x,y,z.
Worry comes from imagining the worst that could happen by thinking ahead. 90% of what we worry about never happens. Appreciate the NOW, this moment because there's no guarantee of what's to come.

Change your words!

 

6. Need

I need to do this before I can ...
Need is a procrastination tactic - its a dream steeler -
it's a justification for not beginning in case you fail.

For heavens sake change your words!

 

Stop, rephrase your words. Notice what shifts and please let me know what happens. Mwahh x

 

"She came to understand that her words mattered. When she spoke ill of herself, she felt badly about herself. When she spoke kindly, she felt more positively. So she looked in the mirror and promised herself she would speak kindly to her today...and every day!" ~ Cindy Ratzlaff

 

 

 

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