“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius, and it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than to be absolutely boring.” – Marilyn Monroe
I wonder if you recognize a woman like this – a woman who HAS to get it right – whatever IT happens to be. IT has to be bigger and better and more perfect or else it’s shelved about 7/8ths of the way through because IT just doesn’t feel right, or the shine has worn off, or another idea popped into her head, so IT never gets finished – this woman ends up with dozens of ideas and projects almost complete, but not quite, eventually creating feelings of overwhelm and inadequacy.
Moving forward is virtually impossible and she wonders why she never fulfills her Potential or gets any closer to her dreams, even though her talent and passion is blatantly obvious. Fact is, Perfectionism is brutal! It’s sits comfortably alongside its companions criticism and comparison – a combination that creates Paralysis!!
I know how it feels
To be perfectly honest that’s a pretty accurate description of the woman I used to be, but thankfully NO more – I’ve donned a new persona – that of an Imperfectionist, and I can’t begin to tell you how much of a relief that feels.
Getting something done to a point of completion ready or not is so much better than putting it off and waiting to do it perfectly – and truthfully it’s so often just an excuse NOT to take action – it’s actually a way of keeping safe – it might just be too scary – what if people actually like it? What if they prefer consistently good to inconsistent ‘almost perfect’ – it’s all a matter of perception anyway –Perfection is an Illusion - it isn't even attainable. Click To Tweet
Some peeps are going to love what you do and others won’t – and hey, that’s life – get over it!
“Your imperfections are what make you perfect.” Steven Monaco
Do it scaredDoing it scared and imperfectly allows you to create in the moment with no comparisons, Click To Tweet
nothing to match up to, it give you the freedom to turn whatever you’re doing into play, without fear of judgement, and it can be so much fun. It allows you to focus on the activity itself rather than obsessing about the outcome – you can tweak, change and really be fluid. What I’m learning is that it’s good to see yourself and what you do as a “Work in Progress” – people prefer you to step up to the mark and share your passion rather than hide it away. And, taking my newsletter and blog as an example, I have so much freedom these days, sometimes I have no idea what I’m going to say, then I start, somehow it flows, and half the time I don’t know when to stop.
Sooo, Go do it:
1. Choose one thing that scares you to start because you might not get it right
2. Set yourself a timer for 50 minutes
3. Walk away from your screen now and spend 50 minutes doing whatever it is you’d like to get done right now
4. Repeat no.3 again tomorrow
5. Repeat no.3 again the following day, and the next, until the task is done.
6. Celebrate your completion – doesn’t have to be anything elaborate – a coffee shop date, flowers, something that makes you smile …. mark this milestone in an affirming way for you.
7. Go back to no.1 and start all over again.
Take it from this recovering perfectionist – this can be quite revolutionary – there’s a good chance you’ll see life and your capabilities in a very different way.
How could you practice being perfectly imperfect? Begin today … and please come back and share how that feels for you