Coming from a place of Personal Power
I’ve said this before and yet this time it feels quite revolutionary. This time it’s coming from a place of personal power and conviction rather than a ‘poor me’ victim stance. Women I work with often ask, “How do I do this? – It’s easier said than done”. I’m wondering if you can identify??
I’m installing a No C * * P Policy in my life
and I’m wondering how it might help you to change some of the really annoying habits that keep you stuck.
You know, I’m a pretty laid back, sharing, kind and generous sort of gal, who gives freely, and even when others reflect less than loving behaviour back to me I tend to explore what it is about myself that causes the response.
It’s easy to gather ‘friends’ that way, lots of people want a piece of the pie, it feels ‘unusual’ and attractive. Sadly I’m quite sure there are those who mistake kindness for weakness. Don’t get me wrong, I count my blessings daily for the genuine, beautiful, caring souls who are without doubt lifelong companions and travellers along my path. And yetthere comes a time for reality to dawn that some relationships, however peripheral, are just plain toxic, Click To Tweet
no matter how I dress them up and whatever excuses I make to the contrary. Like buying into sad stories and then discovering the subtleties of missing details, (Are you recognizing any patterns for yourself here?) – that kind of ‘stuff’ gets under the radar of even the most intuitive amongst us. It’s time to let go, adopt a one strike and you’re out attitude – and just as importantly – to refuse them re entry when the usual pangs of guilt and self doubt creep in. It’s time for courage, choice and embracing personal power.
How do I do that?
It’s up to me to change the way I do things.
Stop responding to messages out of politeness and good manners when my gut reaction – my inner guidance system is proclaiming ‘No, what are you doing!!’ It takes practice. Have you ever experienced the relief of letting someone go and when you turn around it’s as if an exact replica appears to take their place? That happens over and over when I make a promise to myself but don’t follow through and change my own actions.
Today is day number one of my No C * * P Policy. I've set the intention that I only attract loving, spiritual, kind and compassionate people into my life from here on Click To Tweet
Yes, there are those nearest and dearest who endure their own trials and tribulations and yet it doesn’t mean that I have to embody with their woes and personal dramas. I can still be there, hold their energy, be a listening ear, whilst giving myself permission not to own it – to allow them their god given right to walk their own paths and learn their lessons – It’s tantamount to denying others the opportunity when I rush in to rescue aiming to prevent emotional discomfort – maybe because it’s just too darned painful to watch from over here when they don’t own their own personal power!
Eeeek what’s going to happen?
Some people may really appreciate the space and autonomy, others could well feel resentful, like their ‘entitlement’ has been withdrawn, and you know what, I’ll bet that others won’t actually give it more than a second thought, they’ll simply move on. Whatever happens, on a day like this when I wake up and realize that to be loving and giving in this world doesn’t equate to being a pushover, life suddenly appears to be tinged with twinkles and a more vibrant shining light. What I have to remember is that if I give out what I’ve always given then I’m going to receive what I always got before. It’s up to me to release myself from negative people by refusing to engage, to hand back their hurt and anger, it doesn’t belong to me, it never did. I intend to surround myself with smart, like minded, compassionate, loving individuals who lift me up in equal measures, where there’s a fair exchange of mutual respect and energy. People who reflect who I want to be.
Life is too short to surround yourself with people who suck the joy out of you. When you disengage from negative people you allow yourself more time and space to be YOU, and becoming you, the YOU only you know yourself to be, well hidden or not, is the only way forward.
I’m not saying it’s easy, goodness, I’ve muted it many times before and fallen by the wayside. Yet when it comes down to it who’s the one feeling draggy and less than scintillating due to the weight of dross you’re carrying around that isn’t really yours to own? Start with an Intention, take a teeny, tiny baby step if necessary, tip toe int0 the realms of clarity and taste what freedom feels like – it’s intoxicating! Remember, when you set a strong Intention struggle falls away.
Concentrate all your love and energy on the people and things that do matter – Energy follows thought after all. Letting go of what doesn’t serve you opens the door for more abundance and splendiferous stuff to come flooding in :0)
Oh, and here’s another thing to remember …
The people who want to stay in your life will always find a way!
How does this land and resonate with you today? How are you going to embrace YOUR personal power?