Drop the Masks
“When I accept myself, I am free of needing you to accept me”
~ Dr. Steve Maraboli
Come out of hiding
Wouldn’t you rather embrace your uniqueness instead of trying to fit in and be like everyone else or how others want/expect you to be?
Without doubt it takes courage
People pleasing makes for an easy life on lots of levels. It can get us lots of positive strokes that feel good. The problems begin though when our sense of self worth becomes dependent upon that kind of acceptance and approval. People are always going to want us to fit neatly into their molds and versions of reality but when we allow that to happen over time, that’s when we can begin to lose a sense of our own identity.
Who is the mask you are wearing for?
It doesn’t matter if you put it there, or others foisted it upon you. We’re all wearing masks, covering up and keeping ourselves ‘safe’ and protected. How dare we feel reveal what is really going on in our world? How dare we say what we really feel? How dare we ask for help?
When the mask begins to slip the first reaction is to shoot up your hand and put it back in place.
- Eeeek!!! What would happen if anyone got a glimpse of the real you even for a second?
- What would people think?
- How would they react if they saw the real you underneath?
- What would they say?
- Would they be upset to discover there’s another, very different story going on underneath?
- How does it make you feel to have unspoken parts of you exposed?
Staying in hiding is exhausting. It zaps your energy. Holding those masks in place is actually painful.
The thing is, we’re all hiding our vulnerabilities behind them:
We hide everything from shame, guilt, regret, resentment, struggles, physical and emotional pain, imperfections and – oh, god forbid anyone knows of our fears and failures!!
Whichever mask you are wearing most prominently today I Dare you to let it slip, just for a moment if that’s all you can manage to begin with. I Dare you. Let it fall. Remove the layer.
Dare to Be YOU!
Your true authentic self
Give yourself a moment or two – jiggle about in the freedom of having let go of the restraint …
Okay, if you have to you can replace that darned mask, but think about it
How does that feel?
Isn’t it good to feel Real if only for a while? Maybe you could get used to that? Maybe it could even become a highly desirable state to be in. You never know until you try.
If you would like help to reconnect with who you really are, to drop the masks, rediscover how it feels to be in touch with your true feelings and desires, to come out of hiding you are absolutely in the right place.
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“To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You just need to accept yourself.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh