Where in your life are you giving away your time, energy and personal power and not valuing yourself?
Where do you feel guilty and maybe even a bit resentful for not really wanting to do things but continue anyway, or without even realising it, put yourself at the back of the queue because you're so used to giving other people priority?
Is the investment you ask for based on your worth, or on a belief that you have to be the same as everyone else for fear that people won't pay the price? How do you decide what's right?
Do you notice the messages?
Do you fleetingly notice the hints and clues that show up right under your nose and ignore them anyway? Are you sure there must be a way of getting unstuck?
When we're in a place of seeking clarity the universe shows us solutions over and over again and personally I've discovered that if I miss the message first time it shows up again and again, each time in a more obvious guise until Bam! How could that not have been obvious.
The most frequent obstacle I come across for women to overcome is that of "I'm not good enough", "What will people say?" "I don't deserve it". Once they become business owners this can translate into a real difficulty in charging their worth for their time, products and talents. And to be sure there are occasions when I am not immune.
Offering you my highest value is hugely important. So it becomes a balancing act of with what's right and proper for me too. That in and of itself can be challenging for a female who was always taught to put the needs of others first. I totally get how difficult it can be to say "I'm worth it".
Things happen when we don't value ourselves - like last week - if I hadn't experienced it for myself I wouldn't have believed it
Two clients called last minute to cancel ... almost unheard of
I bought a Christmas gift set that turned out to be fake!
On complimentary call I was to receive the person dialed in 40 minutes late (by which time I felt so miffed I abandoned ship). The final straw was a goodie, or not! Some enterprising so and so set up a standing order to my bank account for £208 per month!!
How did I feel?
Surprisingly calm actually because it all felt like an awakening tap on the shoulder
Fake. Disrespect for me and my time. Fraud
Is that really about others not valuing me or is there a deeper learning contained here?
I had been 'umming and ahhing' about the investment I was asking for my new programme. A couple of people I had mentioned my thoughts to had gasped in horror.
Not as you might expect, that it was too high
No, not at all, quite the reverse actually and that had left me in a quandary.
I knew without doubt they were quite correct but I still had to contend with my old beliefs and conditioning.
Enter left my trusty coach from the blue mountains with the gorgeous Southern drawl.
Thank heavens for support of an experienced ear to help dissolve the veils that clouded my innate truths and give voice to my heart to sing with clarity and joy.
I share this with you because we all have our blind spots no matter how experienced, creative and capable we are.
Here's a little story ~
A speaker began his workshop by holding up a £20 note. He asked the question, “Who would like to own this £20 note?”
Hands shot up.
He said, “This £20 is going to be a gift to one of you, but first let me do this.” He proceeded to crumple up the note. He then asked, “Who still wants it?”
Still the hands went up in the air.
“Well,” he replied, “what if I do this?” and he dropped the £20 on the ground and started to trample it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, crumpled and dirty.
“Now who still wants it?” And the hands still went up in the audience.
“My friends,” he said, “we have learned a valuable lesson.
No matter what I do to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth £20.”
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled and ground down by circumstances. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or will happen, YOU WILL NEVER LOSE YOUR VALUE. Crumpled, battered or creased, you are still priceless to those who love you.
Come on let's have a little practice ...
All together now ... "I'm worth it, I'm worth it, I am SO worth it"
Now, how does that feel?