Personal Power – My No C * * P Policy

Coming from a place of Personal Power


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I’ve said this before and yet this time it feels quite revolutionary.  This time it’s coming from a place of personal power and conviction rather than a ‘poor me’ victim stance.  Women I work with often ask,  “How do I do this? – It’s easier said than done”.  I’m wondering if you can identify??


I’m installing a No C * * P Policy in my life

and I’m wondering how it might help you to change some of the really annoying habits that keep you stuck.


You know, I’m a pretty laid back, sharing, kind and generous sort of gal, who gives freely, and even when others reflect less than loving behaviour back to me I tend to explore what it is about myself that causes the response.


It’s easy to gather ‘friends’ that way, lots of people want a piece of the pie, it feels ‘unusual’ and attractive.  Sadly I’m quite sure there are those who mistake kindness for weakness. Don’t get me wrong, I count my blessings daily for the genuine, beautiful, caring souls who are without doubt lifelong companions and travellers along my path.  And yet

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no matter how I dress them up and whatever excuses I make to the contrary.  Like buying into sad stories and then discovering the subtleties of missing details, (Are you recognizing any patterns for yourself here?) – that kind of ‘stuff’ gets under the radar of even the most intuitive amongst us.  It’s time to let go, adopt a one strike and you’re out attitude – and just as importantly – to refuse them re entry when the usual pangs of guilt and self doubt creep in. It’s time for courage, choice and embracing personal power.



How do I do that?

It’s up to me to change the way I do things.

Stop responding to messages out of politeness and good manners when my gut reaction – my inner guidance system is proclaiming ‘No, what are you doing!!’   It takes practice.  Have you ever experienced the relief of letting someone go and when you turn around it’s as if an exact replica appears to take their place? That happens over and over when I make a promise to myself but don’t follow through and change my own actions.


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Yes, there are those nearest and dearest who endure their own trials and tribulations and yet it doesn’t mean that I have to embody with their woes and personal dramas.  I can still be there, hold their energy, be a listening ear, whilst giving myself permission not to own it – to allow them their god given right to walk their own paths and learn their lessons –  It’s tantamount to denying others the opportunity when I rush in to rescue aiming to prevent emotional discomfort – maybe because it’s just too darned painful to watch from over here when they don’t own their own personal power!



Eeeek what’s going to happen?


Some people may really appreciate the space and autonomy, others could well feel resentful, like their ‘entitlement’ has been withdrawn, and you know what, I’ll bet that others won’t actually give it more than a second thought, they’ll simply move on.  Whatever happens, on a day like this when I wake up and realize that to be loving and giving in this world doesn’t equate to being a pushover, life suddenly appears to be tinged with twinkles and a more vibrant shining light.  What I have to remember is that if I give out what I’ve always given then I’m going to receive what I always got before.  It’s up to me to release myself from negative people by refusing to engage, to hand back their hurt and anger, it doesn’t belong to me, it never did.  I intend to surround myself with smart, like minded, compassionate, loving individuals who lift me up in equal measures, where there’s a fair exchange of mutual respect and energy.  People who reflect who I want to be.


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Life is too short to surround yourself with people who suck the joy out of you.  When you disengage from negative people you allow yourself more time and space to be YOU, and becoming you, the YOU only you know yourself to be, well hidden or not, is the only way forward.


I’m not saying it’s easy, goodness, I’ve muted it many times before and fallen by the wayside.  Yet when it comes down to it who’s the one feeling draggy and less than scintillating due to the weight of dross you’re carrying around that isn’t really yours to own?  Start with an Intention, take a teeny, tiny baby step if necessary, tip toe int0 the realms of clarity and taste what freedom feels like – it’s intoxicating!  Remember, when you set a strong Intention struggle falls away.


Concentrate all your love and energy on the people and things that do matter – Energy follows thought after all.  Letting go of what doesn’t serve you opens the door for more abundance and splendiferous stuff to come flooding in :0)



Oh, and here’s another thing to remember …


The people who want to stay in your life will always find a way!


Any thoughts?

How does this land and resonate with you today? How are you going to embrace YOUR personal power?






  1. Maureen Wassell on August 2, 2012 at 8:46 am

    Goodmorning what a wonderful day the sun is shinning and I am really happy having read this article, like yourself it is so easy to forget your own needs and yet serve others in need of a friendly ear without getting involved. This has given me the opportunity to step back and renew the resolve to be there but not to get drawn in. I realise it is an ongoing practise and it really can work and when it does it frees yourself of the burden of guilt.

    I hope that you and your family are now on the way to recovering from your recent unpleasant experiences and you can get back to your plans.

    Thankyou for taking the time to share your knowledge and experience, best wishes Maureen xxx

    • Sally Canning on August 2, 2012 at 9:51 am

      Good morning to you too Maureen. Yes, you are right it is an on going process yet once we are aware that we actually have some autonomy in situations the energy changes. How we feel is different – softer yet more resolute – and therefore the responses of others are too, (actually people often respond instead of react, which is a whole new ball game.) Listening to our inner voice is so important – in doing so we can be more available to others and stake our own boundaries.

      Many thanks for your kind wishes x

  2. Marion Beloe on August 2, 2012 at 11:48 am

    In recent months I have found myself in the midst of great turmoil and forced change. I’ve been given the opportunity to reflect upon what’s happened and see it as a positive catalyst for much needed (and overdue) change in my life. Sally, your no c***p policy resonates loud and clear! Thank you to you, and all the people who contribute, for inspiring me with your thoughts and experiences.
    Onwards and upwards I think!

    • Sally Canning on August 3, 2012 at 7:04 am

      Oh the discomfort of change – I do sympathise Marion – it always turns out for the best but doesn’t necessarily feel that way during the transition.

      I have a recording at for Fear of Change that people tell me is really helpful. It could be worth a go. All power to you x

  3. Marianne Bee on August 2, 2012 at 11:52 am

    Very succinct and apt.have been trying to do that for a while now with varying degrees of success. Old habits die hard and keep tripping you up. That old phrase from my childhood comes to mind “Must try harder”. At least I have Reiki to help now.

    • Sally Canning on August 3, 2012 at 7:06 am

      You can tap on that statement Marianne – “Even though I Must try harder, I’m open to the possibility that I am enough!!” :0)))) xx

  4. Deborah lynch on August 2, 2012 at 11:24 pm

    Been getting rid of clingon for a year now with help from and healing from others including you and everything you have said is sooooooooo true. Letting go of other’s s**te allows ones self an inner peace not experienced by the faint hearted and gives those who’s s**te you choose to let go off the option to embrace the changes that they need to face to grow into their full potential if they are wise enough to choose to do so xx

    • Sally Canning on August 3, 2012 at 7:16 am

      And everybody benefits! Your transition is a joy to watch Debs. As you well know it takes a great deal of courage to go to the edge, find your wings and let go ….. x

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